Thursday, June 21, 2007

To Treat or Not To Treat

"The treating game is always complicated", I once told a friend who had just made that mighty shift from a student to a working professional. She complained (maybe secretly bragged) about how she felt a bit guilty and how it hurt her big ego, when her working friends were always openly willing to treat her. And now that she had started earning she was ever ready to treat friends. I added, "About treats, I have this thing with some friends wherein if I visit their city then its their treat and vice versa. With others its a whole new set of unstated stuff. But the basic rule to follow is, to 'treat' ppl well. And you can 'treat' ppl well irrespective of whether you are working or not. And maybe in a way ppl were 'treating' you back too."

But then again the treating game is always complicated when it comes to 'treating' people well. Some do it cause they are happy and just want to share the joy. But then there are those who do it to be a part of society, some who do it as an obligation just because it is 'their turn', still others who do it cause they want something in return, some who do it cause they are trying to 'woo' you, others who are forced to do it cause they are related to you, and some who do it cause they have to live their lives with you.

The treating game is indeed always complicated when there are those who decide to treat others based on how that person would treat some unknown person; irrespective of who that unknown person may seem to be. Would I treat you based on such observations ? Would I ? Would you ?

To keep things simple, the basic rule to follow is to 'treat' people well.

6 comments:

Stacey said...

Fun game. :D

arati kadav said...

nice thoughts- so why do you treat people?

btw change your photo- were you ever that thin - lol :)

Alistair D'souza said...

@ stacey
yeah..funny game actually :-)

@ arati
I guess I treat ppl when i'm a bit happy and just feel like it... treat the ppl you like or something like that...

and overall ... i try to keep it simple.... treat ppl well... but i do get a bit bugged with ppl that don't treat others well...

and then again have done some of the second paragraph stuff... don't we all...

Alistair D'souza said...

and yes madame...
will put a fatter pic and change the ratio so that my face doesn't look chubby :-)

Reema Banerjee said...

n wot if u dont wanna treat them at all?wotchoo do then, al?

Alistair D'souza said...

@ reema
well this comes under the 'treat them the way they would treat others' .... others includes you too...

there are basic rules... and then there are always exceptions to everything....