Tuesday, August 21, 2007

The Art of Letting Go

I met this lady over the weekend, a stranger who emanated nostalgic vibes cached in a friendly persona. "I'm an atheist", she stressed in a previous phone conversation, to which I shrugged; our beliefs are our religion and I knew atheists with a religion I admired. When I finally met her she seemed her friendly self but drifted into another world every now and then. She told me she had lost her eighteen year old son last year in an accident. "He was the pillion rider. The rider had a couple of bruises", she tried to battle with the sequence of events. "Thats him in the picture on my 50th b'day. Thats the last b'day I will celebrate", and then she smiled. I did not know what to say. I stood there as a silent observer and exchanged a smile, as time and space shrank simultaneously from a three dimensional world to a one dimensional sphere.

There are some things which we can never let go of, and its no use even trying. Cause its not about letting go of someone or something but letting go of a part of you, and thats not worth letting go of. Sometimes you are told that you can't do much, but as Jack Kerouac notes down as some of the essentials of Spontaneous Prose below; can you actually let go.

  1. Accept loss forever
  2. Be submissive to everything, open, listening
  3. No fear or shame in the dignity of your experience, language & knowledge
  4. Something that you feel will find its own form
  5. Telling the true story of the world in interior monologue
  6. Blow as deep as you want to blow
  7. Write what you want bottomless from bottom of the mind
  8. Be in love with your life

4 comments:

Reema Banerjee said...

sometimes they take a part of u away...sometime u take a part of them away...both ways

Alistair D'souza said...

yeah...

Goli said...

I dont know... I have always found it very hard to let go.. Let go relationships or good times....I want everything there to stay... but it does not happen. People move, or more painfully they change.

Alistair D'souza said...

well I don't think people change...

mostly its rational that starts to kick in... but sometimes you both take away a part of each other...